So what about Melissa McCarthy? The new movie she is in called The Heat has raised some serious photoshop choices that are impossible to ignore. The buzzfeed article displays as much confusion and without saying much, it says it all.
Which made me think about this TEDtalk video of Golda Poretsky, a body acceptance and health at every size activist.
Personally, I have swung from both extremes of disordered eating and the thing that stands out in Golda's talk, is the scale dependency self-esteem is not a healthy way to gage one's worth. I also don't believe weight loss "doesn't work." Dieting doesn't work; been there, failed that. What's hilarious in the not-so-funny-but-ironic-kind-of-way is when she mentions the four healthy habits people should follow, and no matter what one's weight is, life expectancy is the same. The four healthy habits: don't smoke, drink little or not at all, eat 4-5 servings of fruits and vegetables a day, and get exercise of minimum 15 minutes a day. Yet, overconsumption of alcohol is glorified, commercials for prepackaged, processed, quick and easy food is wedged in between the commercials for makeup, hair products, weight loss products, etc. Do you know how many people suck down a cigarette before or after the gym? Plenty. But the message continues to be: there is a quick fix for your "problem." How you look is a problem, how you eat, what you eat, when you eat, how much you weigh, how often you exercise, did I mention how you look is a problem, and while smoking is becoming less publicized, but alcohol isn't going anywhere.
The truth is, there's no quick fix. You know this is when someone would obnoxiously say, "They say anything worth having doesn't come easy," or some equally totally annoying cliche. But, at the end of the day, it's kind of true. So while I continue to learn how to forgive myself for past mistakes or choices, I also try to live in a place of compassion with where I am, and a willingness to start making better choices, just for today.